HR questioned me for hours a few intercourse damage, and extra — Ask a Supervisor


It’s a particular “the place are you now?” season at Ask a Supervisor! All this week and subsequent, I’m operating updates from individuals who had their letters right here answered up to now. Listed below are 4 updates from previous letter-writers.

1. HR questioned me for hours a few intercourse damage (first replace right here)

So, right here’s the in all probability closing replace on this entire state of affairs now that it’s properly behind me.

1. I stay in a state the place it’s truly unattainable to legally consent to BDSM so we needed to accept me simply shifting on as a result of it acquired too difficult to truly pursue something with out additionally getting myself/my play associate in hassle. Thanks Puritans!

2. I’ve a brand new job! It’s a lot better paying and it’s distant so nobody cares about any bruises I get!

3. And that is in all probability the juiciest bit. I discovered extra about Lee. Again of their earlier scene, that they had outed somebody who was relationship their ex by emailing photos of their fetlife to their employer. WILD!

Due to you and everybody for making me not really feel like a loopy individual anymore. I used to be really beginning to query if I used to be as evil as Mary described.

2. My boss retains calling my predecessor for assist

I do know I gave Jack a little bit of a tough time in my authentic electronic mail however I can genuinely, confidently say that he’s the perfect boss, and he has a real look after his staff. When the state of affairs was occurring, I do know sufficient now about Jack that I can say that he simply … genuinely doesn’t know lots about my job, and it’s a singular type of place that Jill type of helped curate and set the stage for what it’s in the present day. Having that info now, I can see why he’d instantly flip to her with sure questions (not all, however some – some stuff he positively didn’t have to name her about, however no matter).

Jack and I’ve ended up having a number of conversations – I’ve defined to him that I really feel snug sufficient in my position to the place he (and Jill) might be much less arms on in serving to me with issues and I might even tackle further obligations. That was a tricky one for him however I’ve seen over time how he has been prepared to belief me increasingly more with obligations. He additionally defined to me the “workplace tradition” he was used to working in and dedicated to doing a greater job with ensuring I’m truly in a position to do my job with out exterior enter from former staff – and he’s following via! That has been actually thrilling for me.

Curiously sufficient I’ve additionally had a pair conversations with Jill! Not in regards to the state of affairs with Jack particularly and her oblique involvement, however nearly Jack as an individual. She instructed me to only hold attempting, and instructed me the best way to strategy sure topics or duties with him and ultimately he’ll loosen up a bit – all issues which have labored.

Total, issues have positively modified right here for me for the higher. I’ve talked to Jack in depth about this lots and he says I’m doing nice and he anticipates me being right here for a very long time and that I’ll ultimately be shifting up within the ranks (one thing I can positively inform he’s getting ready me for!).

On the time while you’d emailed me for an replace I hadn’t taken your recommendation but as a result of I used to be so nervous, however ultimately I did and I’m glad! On the time of emailing I genuinely liked me job however now I can see myself working right here a very long time.

3. I used to be uncovered to Covid by doing my job and now should quarantine with out pay (#2 on the hyperlink)

I wrote about how I work in healthcare and was not paid for my quarantine after a piece associated COVID publicity from a affected person. After you answered my letter, I despatched a screenshot of the OSHA ETS stating healthcare employees needed to be paid to my HR rep and supervisor. Each forwarded it to my supervisor’s boss. I initially acquired a really generic response alongside the strains of “thanks for reaching out, I’ll present this to our compliance officer and get again to you.” After a pair weeks with no response, I reached out once more and was instructed their insurance policies had been reviewed based mostly on what I despatched they usually’d be completely satisfied to inform me how they’re sustaining compliance. I mentioned I’d recognize that and acquired no response. I waited two extra weeks and tried yet another time to get solutions and was ignored fully.

I began searching for different jobs and located one which I believe might be actually nice and a transfer up the ladder from the place I’m now. It even got here with a little bit pay enhance in addition. I turned in my resignation and my supervisor was very sympathetic and agreed with me that I ought to have been paid, however has no management over the state of affairs. She mentioned she was instructed that it was denied as a result of our state particular OSHA ETS doesn’t mandate paid quarantine. I don’t see how a federal regulation will be ignored as a result of it isn’t additionally state particular and have thought of submitting a grievance someplace to search out out if I’m truly entitled to that cash, however unsure how or with whom I’d want to attach.

I really feel dangerous for leaving as a result of the individuals it most impacts—my direct managers and coworkers—are an awesome group of individuals and have been excellent to me. Sadly, the very fact is I can’t proceed it work for a healthcare firm that sees an worker’s misfortune at being uncovered to a doubtlessly lethal virus at work as a superb alternative to withhold their wage and revenue off of them. I additionally reviewed their coverage intently and noticed that I ought to by no means have been made to quarantine per their very own tips until I turned symptomatic as a result of I used to be totally vaccinated. Nevertheless when my supervisor requested the chief compliance officer what to do about my state of affairs she instructed them to make me quarantine—and nonetheless didn’t pay me for it. Hoping for higher days forward in my new job with my new firm!

4. 2 of my coworkers spend all their time collectively and don’t do any work

Nikki and Jack are nonetheless considerably joined on the hip, however Nikki was moved to a different group the place she has way more to take action their time collectively is proscribed. As an alternative of really addressing the difficulty with both of them, Nikki was simply shifted round as a part of a secret plan to drive out the troublemakers together with a bunch of different individuals who weren’t managed, simply pressured into different areas. I find out about this plan as a result of my grandboss instructed me about it.

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